Tamika Fuller is having her say. After Ludacris took full custody of their baby girl, the woman who was impregnated by Ludacris while he dated his now-wife Eudoxie is giving her side. Check it inside...
In January of this year, just weeks after revealing he's married and expecting a new baby with Eudoxie (pictured below), Furious 7 star Ludacris gained full custody of his youngest daughter Cai Bella (pictured above with Tamika).
The problem is, Cai's mother gave a compelling story in their custody hearing alleging Luda simply wants the baby for image and child support reasons (that he wouldn't have to pay if he has full custody). And she revealed shocking details about him previously asking her to abort the child. Now that all is said and done, Tamika is hurt her daughter has been taken from her. And she's giving the masses her in-depth story.
In an essay written for MadameNoire.com, Tamika spills the details about what happened after she told Chirs "Ludacris" Bridges she was pregnant with his child...just a little while after the old friends reunited and had sexual encounters.
The psychological manipulation began immediately. He broke down in tears when I told him that I wanted to keep our baby, and he begged me to abort the child whose heartbeat was developing in rhythm with my own. He told me that it would destroy his career and his image. I contemplated heavily on terminating my pregnancy. I don’t believe in forced parenthood or trapping anyone into raising an unwanted child. However, when I visited the clinic and heard my daughter’s heartbeat on the ultrasound, I knew I couldn’t go through with it.
He promised me the world – trips on his private jet and other perks of the rich and famous – if I would just have the abortion. He made me feel as if I was ruining us. It was as if he believed that our friendship should take precedence over the life growing inside of me and when he realized that it didn’t, it couldn’t, my real nightmare began.
And then she dropped some eye opening knowledge. Clearly, Tamika (and/or her team) has been doing her research about fathers who gain full custody of their children. And she has an explanation as to why the system automatically gives her the short end of the stick:
In her book, Mothers on Trial: The Battle for Children and Custody, Chesler found that 70 percent of fathers who fight for custody win, regardless of the father’s character or even if he’s an active part of the child’s life. The perception of mothers who retain custody of their children is flawed. They don’t all have their children because the courts decided that they were the better parent, but rather, the fathers didn’t fight for custody. So when a father does fight for custody, male patriarchal privilege rears its ugly head. He’s rewarded for being the rare unicorn that wants to raise his child so much that he goes to court.
Now, place those statistics and that history and situate them in Hip-Hop loving Atlanta where Chris is a favorite son. Throw in my less than ideal financial state and accusations that I had abandoned my first child, and I never stood a chance.
Interesting. Check out what else Tamika has to say about accusations of her leaving her eldest daughter, her relationship with Ludacris, her plans to start an organization to help moms in her same situation, and more in her full essay HERE.
Photo: Madame Noire
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